Don’t be afraid to ask someone out this Christmas!
Asking somebody out for a drink is supposed to be fun and flirty, but no one says it’s always easy. If you approach them with fear and trepidation over such a little question, they’re most likely to say no. Not many people want to hang out with someone who looks like they’re about to have a heart attack. Keep your cool, don’t be a fool and try these six tips for asking someone out for a drink.
Avoid the word “date.” Never utter that awful four-letter word when asking someone out for a drink. Going out for a drink is fun, frivolous and casual. Calling it a “date” suddenly moves into the un-fun, nerve-wracking and what-the-hell-am-I-going-to-wear category. Keep your request sweet and light—kind of like the cocktail you hope they’ll be sipping with you soon.
Pretend you’re going out for a drink anyway. “Hey, I’m going to Northern Quarter for a drink. Want to come along?” If your plans are already in place, there is less pressure all around. They’ll think they’re just tagging along in a friendly way rather than going out for a drink with an admirer where they’ll have to sit around awkward.
Be different. If you already know them, tell you how much you enjoy talking to them and would love to have a chat over drinks. If you don’t know them, tell them they look like someone who is really interesting to talk to and you would love to have a chat over drinks. Be weird. Tell her you like her eye-brows. Tell him you like his jaw-line. Once flattery puts a chink in their protective armour, they’re more likely to agree to go out for a drink and they’ll remember what you said is more than likely something they’ve not heard before.
Entice them with description. If you know of a particularly snazzy or quirky bar, talk it up. Tell them they must see this great place, no matter what—even if they don’t go there with you. But since you already know how to get there, well, they may as well come along.
Give them options, interactive. Maybe they’re not the uber-stylish type at all and will be horrified by your suggestion. Have a few backup suggestions like; a game of pool? It’s interaction. You want to play pool, you’re there for the pool and someone to play it with. Or a gym class you like that you know they’ll like or benefit from. Make sure you have a coffee place in the back of your mind. Believe it or not, not everyone drinks.
Say you’re buying. When all else fails, money talks. Make sure they know you’re shouting ‘em in, even if they opt for the over-priced, top-shelf stuffy bar. You can always lighten the mood once you get there and always switch bars if you’re uncomfortable.
Be honest. Everyone appreciates honesty. Keep it positive though.
Your top priority is getting them to say yes to going out for a drink with you in the first place. All the other details are just fluff, so you can take ‘em as they come. Don’t ffs forget their name!
Besides, it ‘is’ Christmas.
What do you think?